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How to Address Money Problems in Marriage

How to Address Money Problems in Marriage

Jennifer Kooshian2024-09-27T12:32:11+00:00April 10th, 2024|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Several things can cause friction in a relationship, and money is one of those things. The best of friends can find themselves at odds because of disagreements about finances. Money is a sensitive subject that can stir up strong emotions in people, and those strong emotions can lend themselves to conflict that is difficult to resolve. In marriage, where a couple often holds their finances in common, money problems can become a source of significant stress. Money and marriage Financial issues are one of the leading causes of divorce, with between 20-40% of divorces being attributable to disagreements and problems about money. Money is such a key part of our existence. It’s how we eat, are housed, clothed, able to enjoy vacations, give to our favorite charities, and save up for retirement. It’s not surprising that when there are issues about money, it can affect every aspect of a couple’s life. Issues around money can emerge in several ways. Often, when there isn’t enough money to spend on everything one would want, disagreements can arise about what to prioritize with the limited resources there are. Conflict can arise based on the spending patterns of one or both spouses. Conflict can also spring up when financial problems are kept hidden from one spouse by the other. Money often comes through hard work, and that can complicate the use of money in the household. The spouse making more money may feel they have the right to determine how the family’s resources are spent. If one spouse is often working to provide for the family, they may become resentful of how much they work and insist on being able to enjoy the fruits of their labor. These are just some of the ways money affects the dynamic of a relationship. As money [...]

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Bullying Prevention: How to Help Your Child

Bullying Prevention: How to Help Your Child

Cyndi Kay Green2024-09-27T12:23:42+00:00January 10th, 2024|Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Relationship Issues|

School is more than just a place of academic learning. It is also a place for making connections with others. Children enjoy playing with other children. Bullying is defined as aggressive behavior displayed when a person intentionally and repeatedly causes another person fear, injury, or distress. Bullying prevention starts with being committed to providing safe places for children to grow without fear. What makes a bully? Children who bully aren’t necessarily bad kids. Occasionally, they are simply okay kids who made a bad decision. It is important to know that a child bullies another child for many reasons. They seek attention because they lack attention at home. They are bullied by older siblings. They were once a victim of bullying. They are unable to accept the differences of others. They look down on others who are from a lower social class. They want to feel popular, powerful, and in control. They are jealous of their victim. They think that they are entitled to have everything they want. What makes a victim? A child doesn’t just decide that they want to be the victim of bullying. A child can fall prey to a bully just because they happen to be in the wrong place and at the wrong time. Bullying doesn’t just happen to weak children. Some victims are strong and popular. The thing to remember is that the fault does not lie with the victim. It is a choice that the bully makes based on some other issue. Most of the targets of a bully have the following characteristics: Creativity and/or intelligence. Success. Social isolation with few friends. Popularity. Disabilities. A different physical appearance. Different religious beliefs. Cultural differences. Supposed sexual orientation that is different from their biology. Vulnerability. Recognizing that your child is being bullied. The signs of [...]

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Signs of Infidelity to Look Out For

Signs of Infidelity to Look Out For

Kate Motaung2024-10-29T12:46:58+00:00December 29th, 2023|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Infidelity and Affairs, Relationship Issues|

It is probably true to say that you know your spouse or significant other better than anyone else. When you spend a lot of time with someone, you learn their moods, likes, weaknesses, and strengths. When something is wrong in their life, you usually will be the first person to detect it. In the unfortunate case that your spouse or partner is being unfaithful, you will likely have the intuit to detect signs of infidelity. Understanding infidelity in relationships. Infidelity is one of many things that could go wrong in a relationship. If it happens, you hope that you would be able to tell. Unfortunately, even the happiest of relationships can be affected by infidelity, as the reasons for it are myriad and often not obvious. Typically, people assume that affairs happen only where there is some sort of unhappiness or neglect. Though this is often enough, infidelity happens for other reasons too, including: A spontaneous act when the opportunity presents itself, combined with poor boundaries. As a form of revenge for a real or perceived wrong inflicted by the other partner. As part of one’s self-exploration. Due to low self-esteem and being unable to say “No!” to someone’s. Poor emotional self-care that leaves one vulnerable to a quick escape in an affair. Sexual dysfunction with one’s current partner. Difficulty communicating with and feeling connected to one’s partner. Unfortunately, infidelity is quite common, with some studies indicating that around a fifth to a little under half of heterosexual married men, and a fifth to a quarter of heterosexual married women will engage in an extramarital affair at some point in their lives. The betrayal of infidelity can occur in a variety of ways, including an emotional affair, flirty texting, or a porn habit. Some signs of infidelity. It can [...]

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Divorce In The Bible: What Does It Say?

Divorce In The Bible: What Does It Say?

Kate Motaung2024-10-29T12:47:34+00:00July 13th, 2022|Featured, Infidelity and Affairs, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues, Spiritual Development|

Many people see divorce as a positive solution to a troubled marriage, but the Bible is clear that God designed marriage to be a lifelong covenant relationship between a man and a woman. It was meant to be a sacred bond based on love, commitment, and mutuality that reflected God’s love for His people, and Christ’s relationship to His church. The Apostle Paul describes this spiritual union that takes place in marriage as a “profound mystery” (Ephesians 5:31-32). Divorce was never an option. After the fall (Genesis 3), man’s sinful nature led to widespread disregard for the sanctity of marriage, making it fall far short of God’s original plan. Husbands were being unfaithful to their wives, disrespecting and mistreating them, and even sending them away without cause so they could marry younger women. Even though God hated divorce (Malachi 2:16), he allowed it in order to protect the disadvantaged woman from the treachery and abuse of her hardhearted husband. A certificate of divorce was instituted under Moses to diminish the injustice perpetrated against the discarded wife. No longer could her husband just unceremoniously throw her out. He had to provide her with a legal document sanctioning the dissolution of their marriage and giving her freedom to remarry and become part of another family where she would hopefully be treated better (Deuteronomy 24:1-2). The behavior of the Israelite men angered God and He would no longer accept their offerings with favor. When they wondered why, He sent them a message through His prophet, Malachi. Another thing you do. You flood the LORD’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is the witness between you and [...]

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